So just when I decide I'd better get my feet back under me and get going on an emergency fund. The worst thing happened.
My dad went into the hospital on the 19th. At 86 every hospital stay is serious.
He passed away on December 26.
Not only was I not emotionally ready for this. I also wasn't financially ready. Which makes me angry with myself. To have to borrow money to travel to my father's funeral. This scenario is a nightmare.
But I did. I borrowed money from my mom's account ... she's in a nursing home so I have to be sure and pay it back or the Medicaid folks will say I"m 'hiding' money. She wanted me to have it but that's beside the point...
The point is I should have had enough money!!
My dad was a huge proponent of one basic financial tenant:
Spend less than you make... put the rest away.
Do you think after almost 50 years I could figure this shit out???
So I'm in Evansville. And my dad was my only family here aside from my step-family. No one was really 'getting together' the night before the funeral.
I called my step-mom to let her know we were in town and she invited us to dinner at a local restraunt...
That was God-send number 1.
We spend some time with her and I met one of her sisters and brother-in-law. Super nice people. We talked for awhile and then opted to go to the hotel.
Hotels are rarely cheap anymore. even less so around holidays. I contacted an old and dear friend to see if she was available to meet. We had seen each other in about 15 or 16 years. She was and she came out to the hotel...
She called me over to where she was talking with the lady at the front desk when I went out to meet her.. seems my dear dear friend had had a coupon for a free night's stay at this very hotel... and she got the hotel to apply it to my bill... I was nearly in tears.. well, actually I was in tears!
God-send number 2.
Now I can focus on why I'm here. ANd now I can quit worrying about how to get home.
And I can also use this story and my father's precious memory and wise philosophy to motivate myself to do better. for me, but especially for my girls.